"I get my high when I'm dancing."
- Tony Manero, Saturday Night Fever
I want to thank everyone for their interest and participation in these Game-related posts over the past few weeks or so; as I was reviewing the site stats for the past month (and which will be released this coming Sunday) I was taken aback by the uptick in reader interest, expressed in unique site views. This tells me what my readers what to see more of, and I hear you loud and clear. So, with that said, let's continue with our perusal and study of Game...
Two commenters in particular, from our previous post, CSPB an DJ, made a powerful point about the importance of dancing in a Man's seduction repetoire; and it's true - a Man who has moves on the dancefloor instantly has a decided advantage over other guys when it comes to upping his notch count. There's simply no getting around that fact. Dancing is one of a number of proxies Women use to gauge a Man's sexual prowess, and has been with us as long as they have been Human Beings, and for that matter, animals of all kinds, on the planet. They don't call it the "mating dance" for nothing, don't you know.
I made a reference to the smash hit film, "Saturday Night Fever" in my last post, and since one of my commenters particularly enjoyed said reference, and because two other commenters talked at some length on the importance of the dance, and since I've talked about the different styles of Game a Man can have and deploy, I thought I would illustrate a bit of what I meant by using SNF as a prima facia example of one of the "forms" or styles of Game, which I refer to as Ataru Game. Also, please understand something: you can and should avail yourself of as many sources of material to learn from, for the student of Game is constantly learning, observing, trying out new things, and the like. Just because something is fictional does not mean that it isn't relevant or useful; indeed, SNF's enduring success, more than 30 years after its release, means that it has struck a very deep chord of resonance in people worldwide, and which of course, made John Travolta an instant household name.
As I've said previously, Ataru Game is is a style of seduction which is focused on the body, where often the Man in question uses his body for maximum effect along these lines. SNF's Tony Manero, is a picture perfect example of this principle in action - in addition to being tall (and even taller given the platform heeled shoes he wears), he uses a style of dancing that's "big" - if you watch the film, you will notice that his dance moves takes up a lot of space; he often has the entire dancefloor to himself. When dancing with a partner (or two, or three) he often uses his long arms a lot, so even when there are other couples out on the dancefloor, they tend to be "crowded out" by his manner of dancing. He "makes a hole" whenever he's on the floor. This is even true when he and Stephanie enter the niteclub's dancing contest, and they choose a more sedate song to dance to - they moves are still such that takes up the entire floor and are broadly expressive. Whether he's line dancing, doing the Tango Hustle, or whatever, Tony's style is very high energy, and is irresistable to the ladies because of it.
But that's only a part of Tony's Game; another part of it is in the way he Peacocks. Right at the very beginning of the film we see him walking down the street of his Bay Ridge Brooklyn neighborhood, and what is he wearing? RED shoes, and a matching RED shirt - he looks like a tall rooster or something - but there he is, conspicuously standing out from everybody else, Male and Female alike. And this is on a regular workday, as he's carrying a can of paint to his job, the local hardware and paint store. His gait is literally like that of a rooster, in fact. Guys who work a lot of Ataru Game tend to do things like this.
And then there's the iconic white suit Tony wore for the dancing contest - he had an innate understanding of the theatrical and knew that he had to make a powerful impression on the dancefloor in order to have a chance at winning the prize (which was more than mere money; it also meant Stephanie, too). Even in a discotheque at the height of the Disco phase, he stood out - that's Ataru Game to the max. And think about it - when's the last time you saw a guy wearing an all white suit anywhere? Other than Tom Wolfe and Colonel Sanders, one is hardpressed to think up an instance. The last time I personally saw something like that was last Summer during the Ralphael Siddiq concert in Central Park - he wore an all white suit and matching white short-sleeve shirt, and he looked great. No one else came even close.
Because Ataru Game puts such a focus on the body, it works best when a Man's body itself is "extreme" in some way - either really tall, or really short. Or if you're older than might be expected for the venue, or the other way, a lot younger. Or if you're a guy like The Wire's Bunk Moreland or The Green Mile's Michael Clark Duncan, or if you're more dimunitive, like say, Allen Iverson or Prince or Bruce Lee. Ataru operates on the extremes of the principles of Game, indeed it thrives there, and really makes an impression when you combine that with all the energy and wide, sweeping moves this style is known for, because for Ataru Game to work best, one needs lots of room to roam.
Tony's understanding of feminine psychology and the like weren't anywhere near as developed as the other things mentioned here - what many in the community refer to as the difference between Inner Game and Outer Game - still though, we can observe a number of his actions and learn from them. For one thing, notice how he constantly (though negatively, much of the time) negs Annette, his original dance partner. She expresses feelings for him, which he often rebuffs. Recall what I've said previously about the ability to resist giving in, at least too soon, to a Woman's charms; it will almost always have the effect of her wanting you to have her even more. Second, notice in the opening shots of SNF, Tony attempting to apply "Holla back Game" on two ladies walking down the street, and how it does NOT work, LOL. Again, as a rule, hitting on Moving Targets isn't a good idea, unless you do it a certain way, which I'll get to later in this series. One of the major reasons why Tony failed at both attempts to holla at the young ladies he saw on the street was because he lacked the fundamentals of Game that would have equipped him to drive for a better outcome - it still would have been difficult, but he could have improved his chances. This is why one should if nothing else, be firmly rooted in Shii-Cho Game because of the stress it lays on the fundamentals.
We see Tony fail again when walking Stephanie home from dance practice, and instead of merely doing it - walking her the rest of the way home - he asks. Asking "Mother, May I?" is a tremendous DLV - if you think you could have, you could have and you should have. And of course, his attempts to seduce an older, more urbane Woman has some serious fits and starts, as she easily bests him in terms of sophistication, conversation and life experience; the ONLY thing that saves him is his good looks and his great dancing skills. This is a powerful lesson here for the student - gunning after Women like Stephanie - Women of substance, class AND beauty - require quite a bit more than flashy displays. Had Tony been rooted in the fundamentals of Game, he would have had a much better time with Stephanie, although, of course, him doing so would have ruined the movie's plot, LOL.
There is one time in Tony and Stephanie's courtship where he clearly gets the upperhand (which is what Women want to happen): in the dance studio, after Stephanie cuts Tony down to size several times, he closes in on her and says, "I hear you're training to be a bitch; is that true?", and then shimmies away from her. Note how she's stunned by this well-placed and well-timed Neg. Things begin to open up for Tony from there, and here we see yet another very important principle of Game: the more beautiful, and "all that" the Target is, the more you MUST employ the Neg. This is important; Stephanie constantly namedrops - she's met Eric Clapton, Paul Anka, and so forth - so in order for Tony to be successful with her off the dancefloor, he's gotta bring her down to earth, and routinely shocking her into compliance with Negs is one of the best ways to do that.
Now, this is completely different from what Tony does to Annette, and here again we see a very important principle wrt the Neg - Women who either aren't very beautiful, and/or have deepseated (and apparent) LSE (Low Self-Esteem) you should NOT Neg as much, if at all. Such a thing isn't useful and often can be quite counterproductive, as we saw later in the film. Annette isn't ugly by any estimation, but she clearly lacks the worldliness of Stephanie, which includes the realm of dancing, and all this makes Annette feel quite insecure. Tony's treatment of her was quite bad, and something I do not condone or endorse. He's under no obligation to be romantically involved with her, true, but he's also outta pocket for the way in which he treats her, too. Always remember: save for your Negs for the Women who truly deserve them.
Going back to Negging and how they work in the seduction dance - Tony and Stephanie grow closer together as a result of their spending time to practice for the contest and during the dance-off itself, at one point in their routine, they kiss - in fact, it is very common for really great dancers like Tony to be kissed by the Women they dance with (recall the earlier scene where Tony dances with two Women at once and one of them demands that he kiss her, nearly passing out afterward and saying that she kissed Al Pacino! Something I found particularly interesting, since Pacino is quite a bit shorter than Travolta, LOL). Dancing achieves the goals of Kino and escalation all at once, something we'll be talking about more in the posts to come (H/T to CSPB for broaching the topic!), which is another reason as to why if you can do so, definitely aim to be a great dancer. Lastly, note how Tony and Stephanie end their dance routine for the contest - Tony leads them off the dancefloor. Fellas, Women want to be led, and if you're not doing the leading, eventually, someone else will.
A few concluding thoughts are in order here. Both CSPB and DJ mentioned the importance of dancing especially if you're a White guy, and I couldn't agree more - John Travolta is hands down one of the best White guys on the dancefloor since Fred Astaire and Gene Kelly, and Hugh Jackman is no slouch in the dancing department either. I can't speak for the other three, but I know for a fact that Travolta got his moves by observing closely Black guys working it out on the dancefloor, and let's face it - a White boy getting down like a Brotha (or in some case, better) makes him an instant hit with the ladies, White or Black (Robin Thicke is another example in more recent years that easily comes to mind). It's the idea of playing against type - recall how President Barack Obama was/is always noted for his being so "articulate". The same could be said for actor Sidney Poitier, who was always known for his elegance and grace, particularly under pressure. Again, Black and White Women alike loved him. Yes, it may be correct to say that we shouldn't peddle in stereotypes, but the student of the Game understands that this is how human minds work. They don't lament the world as it is, but merely uses it to gain a decided advantage in it.
The other point that is worthy of mention here is the fact that both CSPB and DJ said that often other guys will try to shame or deride guys who are great dancers as being gay or somehow not masculine. Although of course, such crude arguments are largely baseless since if a Man wants to dance in a Gay Male setting, especially in a Gay-friendly place like NYC, he can easily do so, it is nevertheless interesting to note that Disco and later, House music got their start in large part, because of the Gay community's openess to new sounds. Much of the moves and looks, of both genres borrowed quite a bit from the Gay community, and it would do a Man well to try to learn what he can from Gay Men along these lines (Lesbian Women can greatly inform a Man's understanding of Women in general as well). The popular tv show, "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy" is a play or take on this principle, of how Gay Men have an eye or sensibility for fashion, art and music that most straight Men simply do not have, and would do well to cultivate, especially they have any intentions of seducing the Stephanies of the world. So, the AFC haters do have a point, but as per usual, they miss the forest for the trees.
I don't know how much it cost to make Saturday Night Fever, but according to Wikipedia, it has grossed nearly a quarter of a billion dollars - which suggests that it is among one of the most commercially successful films ever to be made. Talk about Game being right under your nose in plain sight...
Now adjourn your asses...