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Saturday, August 3rd 2013

10:27 AM

Question: Is What This Woman Did "Ethical"?

"I’ve meet several guys recently through shared interest/hobby groups. All of the men have been in their mid-late thirties, and all of the men have been established professionally. Each guy has been more than willing to spend their money on me by taking me on fancy dates in the city. I admit to feeling slightly guilty about the amount of money being spent, since I don’t believe that I will be dating most of them for much longer. I don’t really see any of them as the potential “one”, and I’ve offered several times to split the bills, but they’ve insisted on spending $50-$100 dollars on me per date.

One guy, who I’ve been on a few dates with, decided to take me to the new Italian hotspot in the city called Sotto. This was after he had already taken me to have dinner at a fancy sushi restaurant. At Sotto, we drank lots of wine, talked, and shared dessert together. Afterwards, we walked around the city for hours.

Another guy has taken me on many more dates, including inviting me to a wine social that he was having at his home. The more that I hang out with him, the more people in his life that he keeps introducing me to. It’s a bit overwhelming, to be honest. On the last date he and I went on this past Thursday, he admitted having feelings for me while we were lounging on a couch in some trendy bar.

As I said earlier, I don’t think that I will be dating these guys much longer, and I plan on letting them know my thoughts about things soon. I’ve just been enjoying having fun, but I’m not ready to settle down with anyone quite yet. I feel like being honest with them, at this point, will be the best thing overall."


11 comment(s).

Posted by KT:

The moment she realized that she was gonna eventually dump these guys, she should've stopped going on the dates with them or told them her true feelings about them.
Saturday, August 3rd 2013 @ 10:45 AM

Posted by Pogobor:

Personally I have no problem with it.

She clearly stated she wasn't that into them AFTER she got a 'taste' of their lifestyle(s). Which is fair, you don't have to buy a car after you test drive it.

*gets in fighting stance to perform verbal jujitsu *

HOWEVER,a man can also clearly state that he isn't into a woman- or women AFTER he gets a 'taste' of their 'lifestyle' (see sex for the uninsightful) as well. Which is fair , you don't have to buy the car after you test drive it.

But we know how the ladies fair over that fairness now don't we.;)
Sunday, August 4th 2013 @ 10:48 AM

Posted by Ethics Professor:

Question: Is What This Woman Did "Ethical"?

Sunday, August 4th 2013 @ 10:52 AM

Posted by Y:

Its not "ethical" but its not entirely wrong either. Personally, its not something I would do just because I value my time. I don't like to waste time on endeavors (i.e. numerous dates) that won't lead to anything.

An important thing is she reliazed she wasn't into the men AFTER their date. So in the beginning it wasn't a matter of "dinner-whoring". However, after realizing she doesn't want to be in a relationship the best (most honest) thing to do is break it off with these men so they don't have to waste any more time and money.
Sunday, August 4th 2013 @ 3:19 PM

Posted by Blues:

What Pogobor said. Also,this woman's actions are pretty much expected from women nowadays, I think it's more important to ask why the guys didn't stop the high level wining and dinning as soon given that there was no sex to justify it, hell, why did they even do it in the first place is a much better question.
Sunday, August 4th 2013 @ 7:22 PM

Posted by dragnet:

I honestly can't get too pissed at what this girl is doing. Sheep get sheared. Suckas get took. A fool and his money, etc.
Sunday, August 4th 2013 @ 7:45 PM

Posted by Ethics Professor:

Y, who says these men want to "be in a relationship" with her? There's nothing at all unethical about accepting a man's invitation to dine with him at face value.
Sunday, August 4th 2013 @ 11:42 PM

Posted by KT:

She clearly stated that she's going to tell them (I.e., she hadn't told them yet) how she feels. If she'd told them up front how she feels and they still wined and dined her, then that's on the men.

I'll also say that we don't know the intentions of the men. Some older men like wining and dining women, so her actions could be ok with these men she's dating.
Thursday, August 8th 2013 @ 10:32 AM

Posted by cara cepat langsing:

cara melangsingkan badan dengan cepat dan alami secara mudah tanpa efek samping apapun pelangsing dan cara melangsingkan badan
Sunday, August 11th 2013 @ 6:29 PM

Posted by cara cepat langsing:

cara melangsingkan badan dengan cepat dan alami secara mudah tanpa efek samping apapun pelangsing dan cara melangsingkan badan
Sunday, August 11th 2013 @ 6:30 PM

Posted by Daniella:

Anda dapat menganggap percaya bahwa itu akan menjadi rinci untuk kesempurnaan . tas branded
Thursday, May 15th 2014 @ 7:08 AM