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Tuesday, May 14th 2013

1:19 PM

The Art Of Peacocking - Obsidian Style

"Well, look at you", Mystery said. "You look average. People think if they look generic, then they can seduce a wide array of women. Not true. You have to specialize. If you look average, you're going to get average girls. Your khaki pants are for the office. They're not for the clubs. And your sweater-burn it. You need to be bigger than life. I'm talking over the top. If you want to get the 10s, you need to learn peacock theory."
-Mystery, "The Game", pp. 22

Longtime readers will know well my hit-series of posts on the Styles (or Forms, if you prefer) of Game; that, contrary to what the uninitiated may believe, there are in fact a wide variety of applications for Game, because it reflects the truth of life itself: that not only are Women different, but the manner in which you may meet them, are different. 

Therefore, the notion or idea, that Game, or Pickup if you prefer, is something that is only relegated to the clubs, is at best an incomplete, if not wholly ignorant one. In truth, Game applies anywhere Male and Female meet on the social landscape, and the core principles that go along with Game, also apply as well. 

Hence we come to one of the most misunderstood aspects of Game itself - Peacocking. What, exactly, is peacocking, and Peacock Theory? Neil "Style" Strauss defines the matter thusly:

"PEACOCK-verb: To dress in loud clothing or with flashy accoutrements in order to get attention from women. Peacocking items include bright shiny shirts, light-up jewelry, feather boas, colorful cowboy hats, or anything else that makes one stand out in a crowd. Origin: Mystery."

Many of the ignorant - and that goes for both those who are relatively new to Pickup and those who know preciously little about it (but when has that ever stopped a Hater from Hatin'?) - think that peacocking means basically looking like you just walked off the set of Mystery's hit TV show on VH1. The correct answer, is that you CAN - but you can also peacock in other ways, too. Really, all it means is that you, as a Male, want to conspicuously stand out from the rest of the Males a Woman will see in the course of a day - especially an attractive one. 

How to do that, you may ask? Well, that is all a matter of personal style, experimentation and of course, Calibration. Many factors go into it - what would work well for a White guy, may not translate well for a Black one, and vice-versa. What works well for a really young guy may not cut it for an older one, etc. In order to pull peacocking off, one really needs to know oneself, while at the same time, being willing to bend their own conventions of how they see themselves. 

When I first read The Game, I was immediately clear that I was NOT going to don the fuzzy hats and goggles that Mystery was famous for, nor was I going to paint my nails black (or any other color), for it was simply not my style; but I immediately understood the principle behind peacocking, the essence of it - to make yourself a stand out guy, a guy whom Women in particular couldn't help but to notice. So, it was real easy for me to adapt what Mystery and Style was saying and make it my own. 

Recently, I got another powerful tool in my Peacocking Toolbox - my cane. 

You see, I recently had surgery on my foot, and as a result had to walk with a cane after I was able to ditch the crutches. I don't know if you guys know this, but hospitals and the like charge you up something fierce for a cane - something like $50! - and they're those God-ugly metal ones with the spongy handle and that screams "OLD", LOL. So, no, I wasn't doing that. 

What did I do? I hit up the trendy thrift shops that pepper Philly instead to look for something distinctive, unusual, stand out - because if there's one thing you should learn from your Seduction Studies, its that you always control the Frame of whatever situation you find yourself in - and found a really cool looking cane, that looks like it was carved out of bamboo. It's been about a month since I bought it and I've yet to run into anyone else with it. In fact, if you're hip to FMA  (Filippino Martial Arts), then you know what the Escrimadors use - and my cane harkens back to that look. And the best part? I got it for $3. What a bargain!

So, now that I'm able to get out and about again, I can't tell you how many compliments and attention I get with that cane - one of my best buds said I remind him of an old KungFu master or something when he saw me recently, LOL - but I know he meant it in a highly complimentary way, too. Everytime I go out with it, I get a compliment on it - and even better?-I get lots of offers from the ladies wanting to "get me something". If I were back out on the market, that would give me an automatic "in" to strike up a conversation and take things from there. 

My point in all of this? That Peacocking, is much, much more than merely donning fuzzy hats or goggles; it's about standing out from the rest of the crowd, getting the attention of the ladies, and compelling them to step to you so you can open them up. And that can mean something as simple, as carrying a really cool looking cane. 

Now that Spring is here, but still cool enough to work all kinds of clothing options, you should be experimenting with your looks like crazy, until you find a Peacocking style that works best for YOU. Talk to me about how you're getting it done, fellas. I'm all ears.

Thu, May 16, 2013 UPDATE: I just got another cane on a real humbug (because I always like to have a backup) - I was out and about running a few errands and while walking by yet another out of the way trendy thrift/consignment shop, I decided to follow my first mind and walked inside. Asking the lady at the counter if they had any canes, this is what she handed me - as you can see, this is a specialized cane for self-defense. Mine very closely resembles this style of cane, and I suspect its owner was, like yours truly, a Martial (and Venusian!) artist. Talk about synchronicity; talk about being at the right place at the right time! And the best part? 

I got it for only $2 USD. That's right, you heard me - two bucks. Peacocking does NOT have to be expensive, fellas. You just have to be creative - which is a signal to the ladies of your resourcefulness, uniqueness and intelligence. Any fool with a fistful of dollars can buy thus or so; but being able to show and demonstrate creativity? Priceless. 

Think of what this says if you see a guy walking by with a cane like this - what's your first impression? Well, for one thing it's definitely eclectic looking - you just don't see many canes like this everyday. And what of the person wielding it - what does it say about him? What does it say about his personality? 

So it goes with just about ANY accessory or item you can name that you can wear or otherwise carry on your person - you want something that stands out from the rest of the crowd, that's distinctive, that says something particular about YOU. As Mystery himself says, you don't have to go buckwild with it; just focus on ONE distinctive item about you, that is likely to turn heads and get a conversation started. Remember: the better you peacock, the better your chances for generating interest in the ladies and getting them to step to you, instead of the other way around. Approaching, after all, is one of the of the toughest areas of Pickup; why not make it a bit easier on yourself by stacking the deck in your favor? 

Now adjourn your arses...

The Obsidian
11 comment(s).

Posted by B.P.:

O: Would you make a distinction between "peacocking" and "having some personal sense of style"?

A personal style can seem less contrived, a more natural expression of a man's sensibilities and circumstances. For example, you needed a cane--and instead of getting a dreary, industrial one, you made an effort to find one that put some of your personality on display.

It seems that a man generally can stand out from the crowd just by having a personal style. So many men either don't care about style or simply adopt some standard male uniform. There are women, perhaps especially Black middle-class types, who are disposed to prefer men who conform to standard expectations. A personal style can help to weed out such women or, probably less often, attract them despite their predispositions.

I'm suggesting that full on peacocking, at least for Black men, might tend to go too far and become counterproductive. But what you're doing, at least with your cane, seems to fall more in the category of having a personal style--which seems more likely to attract interesting, open-minded women.
Tuesday, May 14th 2013 @ 2:31 PM

Posted by Obsidian:

@BP:
You know what, you make some really good points and observations! I have nothing further to add.

Good job!

O.
Tuesday, May 14th 2013 @ 4:35 PM

Posted by Y:

I hope you are recovering well Obsidian.

As I woman I can attest that this does work. I recall a little while ago I saw a *very* attractive guy wearing a shirt with an interesting saying on it (some variation of "keep calm carry on"). Anyways I asked him about it and we had a nice little convo and he asked for my number. We exchanged texts but unfortunately nothing came of it (he was visiting from out of state). But overall my experience supports your point. A similar thing happened with a friend. She saw a guy with a funny shirt while we were out and got the guys number ect.
Tuesday, May 14th 2013 @ 4:57 PM

Posted by TheWidowerSpeaks:

Good post. And BP beat me to the punch on a few of my thoughts.

Subtle ways of standing out using personal style definitely has been my way of standing out from the pack. Black clubs are definitely trendy and its not uncommon to go in and see people dressing in similar styles from preppy to thugged out. Flipping the script with clothing and accessory choices (like your cane) really do help you stand out from the crowd.

I can think of a couple of old school tricks that just always seem to work for me. A nice hat always ends up with at least several ladies wanting to wear it before the end of the night. Nothing gaudy and not a baseball hat, but something stylish that goes along with your outfit.

Another one that works even better is simply ordering an exotic looking drink. I honestly think the more colorful the better and whoever you are rolling should do the same. Women will come up and ask you what are drinking. I honestly can not think of a single time when this has not worked. Walk into a crowded bar next to some women and order something colorful with at least one umbrella and I pretty much guarantee one of the women sitting near you will ask what you are drinking.
Tuesday, May 14th 2013 @ 9:36 PM

Posted by The CPT:

Clearly you are a bolder person to me TheWidower...for I will never order a colorful drink with umbrellas. Not my style. I'm a beer or Jack and Coke type of dude. I'm not the best peacocker either and have had success in later years only by wearing a witty t-shirt. Other than that, I follow the arms length rule. If an attractive woman is within arms length (and nothing more) then attempt to break the ice. Anything at a distance is fair game but I prefer close proximity but not too close as to encroach on personal space. Seems to work.
Wednesday, May 15th 2013 @ 1:40 PM

Posted by MaMu1977:

eAs a young(ish) man who uses canes intermittently (long story short: multiple lower body surgeries), cane game is nothing to sneeze at.

I have three of them- a Caribbean-influenced shillelagh (Irish-style hardwood cudgel, but with Jamaican interpretations), a silver-headed walking cane and a sword cane (because I'm a nerd with violent tendencies.) I can ztill remember my first successful line, post-surgegy
Her-Wow, you're awfully young to be using a cane.
Me-True, but I do my best work on my stomach anyway...
Her-What do you mean by...Oh... Oh!
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